Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Dear Upper Arms, I Adore YOU!



Dearest Friends,

Thank you for all of your support and best wishes with my quest to like myself more and truly make this my best year yet. 
I've decided that instead of hiding out, I am going to share with you what it is that I am doing to feel more like a Fire Engine. 
I pulled a few of my favorite perk-me-up books from my bookshelf and came up with a plan. 
Last year I read, Molly Ringwald's, Getting The Pretty Back and it helped me so much.
I'll be sharing more about that soon.  
I've also been reading one of my very favorite books, The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield, a must read for anyone who needs help unlocking their inner barriers to creativity.  
The third book I am working on is called, Three Black Skirts by Anna Johnson.
My dear friend Amanda sent it to me in honor of the Year Of The Fire Engine.  
In it's first chapter, under the heading body image, it asks us to "write a love letter to your bottom or your ankles or some other maligned region to your physique."
Next, "look in the mirror, don't home in on what you perceive to be your faults.  The body is a whole, not a field of sex-object "highlights" or isolated "problem areas. Instead approach the mirror lovingly.  Would you let someone else observe you as harshly as you observe and judge yourself?"

So, my first assignment  to myself is to look in the mirror and see myself for what I really am.  I'm going to pick out all of my very best features and write them a nice long friendly letter.  While I am at it, I am going to write those features that I don't like as much a letter too.
They need to know that they are pretty special too, don't you think?

Maybe you would like to do the same?  
I figure it couldn't hurt.  

I've missed you dearies. 
I hope you are all doing well and enjoying this lovey dovey month.
Thank you for cheering me on, it means that world to me. 

love love,
Fritzi Marie   

9 comments:

Amanda Laurel Atkins said...

Dear Kat,
I'm so glad you are loving the book! I might have to read The War of Art myself these days. I hope you wrote a lovely letter to your beautiful self.
Lots of love,
Amanda

Melanie's Randomness said...

Sometimes you get to read a blogpost that really hits home. I have to read that book Three Black Skirts. I need to learn to love myself a lil more too. I actually met Molly Ringwald at a signing of that book of hers. She had on pink socks. =) It was awesome.

I'm glad dear your feeling better! Your beautiful, don't ever forget that! =) *hugs*

Marz said...

How brave to write a love letter to not just your best features, but those that you don't like as much. I know exactly what bit I'd write to, but the best features...that would take me a minute to think of! Because you're right, we are SO harsh on ourselves :( Hang in there, you are so beautiful Kitty Kat! This is truly going to be YOUR year! xoxo

Phoenix Peacock said...

A while ago I wrote this post:

http://stugglesandtriumphs.blogspot.com/2010/06/thank-you.html

It is focusing more on painful body parts vs. body image, but it is still very much tied up into making me not feel fire engine sexy. I found it really helpful to look at it from a different perspective. and its been a while - so maybe its time to revisit this idea!

The Mulberry Girl said...

Those books sound great! Isn't it terrible how we pick ourselves apart? I am so so guilty of this.

Chrissy said...

I have to read that book - need to learn to love myself more, too! And not focus on the not so good parts all the time!
Thanks so much for this!
Love ya lots! xxx

diane said...

i must tell you that my heart skipped a beat when i saw this post!

because the truth is this: i support absolutely any time you ever need to take for yourself but i miss you when you're gone!

i think i need to write a love letter to my whole entire self this weekend...it's been a tough time in the ol' middle school classroom for the last few days.

sending you and your sweet boys a warm hello from california! xo

Melissa said...

Don't know if you struggle with these issues like I do, but if so, these are a couple of really great blog posts from C. Jane, Enjoy It (love her blog in general, it's wonderful):

http://blog.cjanerun.com/2011/01/fats-out-of-bag.html

http://blog.cjanerun.com/2011/01/janna-dean-healing-body-image.html

So glad you're back!

AVIDidea said...

Thank you for the recommendation of The War Of Art by Steven Pressfield. I'll be sure to pick it up for my next reading.